I hope everyone had a lovely 4th of July! I swear, if I were a politician, I'd run on the platform of mandatory three-day weekends (willing to make up the time on the other 4 workdays!) and I think I'd win in a landslide. There's something about that 3rd day off that makes the weekend feel soooo much longer.
DH and I met friends down in Newport, RI on Sunday for dinner and then the fireworks. It's so nice down there and though we're experiencing a crazy heatwave in the northeast, it was actually nice on Sunday night. I love fireworks, though we forgot to bring a radio, so we couldn't listen to the cheesy Neil Diamond "Comin to America" while the show was going on ;).
On Saturday, we did our all-day childbirth class. Yes, we decided to do it. I suspected that I would fall in the camp of about 50% of my commenters who found the class a little bit of a waste, but we actually really liked it. Our teacher was AWESOME - really funny and had lots of advice. I immediately felt a kinship with her because she told us that she has a 7-year-old son and then just had twin boys 9 months ago. My IF antennae went up at that -- I'd put her in her late 30s and you just don't go 7 years between kids and then wind up with twins without some fertility intervention, at least in 99% of cases. Anyway, I feel like the class was very informative, especially for NoodleGuy. I think it made him feel good to see how he could make things better for me and where he falls into everything.
We both got much more of a feel for when labor starts and when it's time to head to the hospital, plus we felt better about a potential stress point for us: if I get to the 411 point where you should head in (contractions 4 minutes apart, last at least 1 minute, going on for at least 1 hour) and it happens to be rush hour around Boston. She suggested that we could just head into Boston at a more convenient time, like when contractions are 7 minutes apart, etc, and then just go to dinner or a movie near the hospital. It sounds a little basic and silly, but it makes sense -- we'd get a stressful part over with (the drive in) and can take it easy and have some fun (and a last meal!) as close as possible before heading in. The worst thing that'll happen is that things will progress faster than expected and we'll walk out on the movie early, no biggie. So, that'll be our plan.
She also talked about how important it is to try to relax and stay as stress-free as possible when you get to the hospital. The uterus is just like any other muscle, and when you're stressed, it tenses up and mama pays the price. She had all sorts of suggestions, mostly typical (music, taking a shower in the hospital room, getting a massage from DH) and I'm really trying to take that to heart and will try to go in and be as zen as possible. Also, I learned that I am a BIG fan of those bouncy birthing balls - I predict I will spend alot of time on that sucker while in labor.
Of course covering the pain medication was a big part of the class. Luckily the teacher wasn't judgmental at all about the idea of epidurals - that would have driven me nuts, I don't like people judging other people's choices in this. Anyway, armed with the plan to be as relaxed (and hydrated) as possible, I'm planning on playing the epidural by ear. I'll go in totally open to the idea of it, but waiting as seeing how it goes - I won't get it immediately. I suspect in the long run, I will get one - I have no desire to be a hero in this, I just want the most positive experience possible for Bug, NoodleGuy and myself. So we'll see on this one...
Tonight we have our "newborn essentials" class. Again, I think it'll be more helpful for DH -- I have young relatives and girls are just more comfortable with babies, usually, probably because most of us babysat. All the diapering, temperature taking and all that will help with worrying with the "what the heck do we know?" thoughts that creep up more and more as the due date gets closer.
Then tomorrow morning we have an appointment at a local childcare center that our neighbors highly recommend. These classes and meetings are coming fast and furious, but it's such a relief to be ticking these things off the list. Our childcare plan for now is for me to be on maternity leave from September through Thanksgiving, then I'll try and multitask Bug/work with help from relatives between Thanksgiving and New Year's - it's usually a pretty slow time of year for me at work, so I'm hoping it'll work. Then, as of January 1st, we'll put Bug in daycare (weep) in the afternoons. I'm lucky enough to work from home, so I'll try and see if it works to watch him and work for an hour or two between naps in the 6am to noon range. Then I'll drop him off for daycare at 12:30 and NoodleGuy will pick him up at 5:30 or so. If I wasn't able to get all my work done in the afternoon, NG will take care of all the nighttime rituals - bathing, feeding (I'm planning on pumping by then) and putting Bug to bed.
We'll see how this plan goes -- it'll be alot of work, but to be honest I'm generally not super productive at work in the mornings -- I'll do my conference calls but also all my emailing/blog reading/gossip-site perusing in the morning but I really hunker down for serious web development in the afternoons, so it's not THAT different. OK, yeah right, I know. It's way different. But we'll try it this way -- I don't have the heart to put Bug in full-time daycare at 3 months -- a luxury I have since I work from home, I know if I had an office job, I'd have no choice. To be honest, I'm underpaid in my current job, I could get a job in Boston that pays at least 25% more. But the perks especially this particular one of working from home, make it too good to leave, so that's our plan. Putting him in daycare for half-days also cuts the cost in half which is really appealing, obviously.
In pregnancy news, the ball of my left foot has been killing me in the past week. I'm used to the foot swelling by the end of the night, but I'm not sure where this swelling/bruising on the bottom of my left foot is coming from. I'll mention it to my OB on Thursday - it's not a big deal, just kind of a pain (literally). Along these lines, I read an interesting tidbit on Dr. Google last night when I was researching the foot pain. One article mentioned that the reason you go to the bathroom so many times during the night in late pregnancy is not so much that you had a glass of water before bed or that your bladder is squished -- it's that all the fluid that has collected in your legs and feet throughout the day is now reabsorbed into your body (now that your legs are elevated) and processed by your kidneys and into your bladder. So it's like we're camels, storing our own liquid resources ;).
FINALLY (geez how did this post get so long??), I bought my first set of diapers at CVS this morning (coupon in Sunday's paper)! So exciting - I felt like a mommy for the first time, though clearly I'm not yet. But it was fun to actually pay attention to that aisle instead of avoiding it. And OMG girls - diapers are EXPENSIVE! ;)
So glad you had a fabulous fireworks weekend!! And for sure I'd vote for you if you ran on the 3 day weekend platform. I'm also glad you enjoyed the childbirth class!! Living in DC I can relate to the Boston rush hour traffic issue. We've got like 4 hospital routes planned out depending on time of day, but I won't be laboring at home quite as long as I wanted to since the hospital is far away, traffic or not. Enjoy your baby care class and congrats on buying those diapers!!
ReplyDeletesososososososo exciting! My friends who have twins say costco is cheaper than diapers.com. Do you have costco in MA?
ReplyDeleteIt's so good to hear from you! Happy you are getting classes and meeting checked off the list. For us the classes mostly made us think about the details and it seems like it's doing the same for you. And I know how us type-a girls feel so much better with those details in order =) I even wrote out a birth plan to give to my doc so that she knew what my preferences were. I think you are super smart to remail flexible about the labor, meds, schedule for baby etc. It's nice to have a plan but not everyting goes to plan...as we well know =)
ReplyDeleteI wonder if the pain in your foot is just a position Bug happens to be in that is placing pressure on a nerve that goes to your foot?
You sound so good in EVERY way-- I am so happy for you!
ReplyDeleteLook at you! Birthing classes!
Child care!
DIAPERS!
starting to feel pretty darned real!
Love the idea of heading into Boston "early"-- makes sense.
My best friend had her first and only baby in her driveway, so I say, better early than late.
take care!
Kate
Diapers are expensive. We're using gdiapers, both the cloth and the biodegradable inserts. You should look into them!
ReplyDeleteI will totally vote for you if you decide to run for office! And I think putting diapers on my registries was the best thing I did because people actually bought a ton of them for us. I love the new blog design too...of course with orange being one of my fave colors, I'm a little biased! ;)
ReplyDeleteHave you checked out babycheapskate.com? I've never been a coupon clipper kinda gal but I'm addicted to their diaper steals every week and I've become a bit obsessed (read:overly majorly obsessed).
ReplyDeleteThey have a link somewhere on that site that gives the "average" number of diapers you will need in the first year and I've actually bought newborn and size 1 diapers based on their predictions. I'm staying away from Pampers b/c of the drymax issue (actually Jen from Within Reach's baby Liam had the problem too and that's why he's got the wicked rash!) and I'm going to use Huggies which my SIL says are "crap" - but there isn't really any other option besides Luvs and I can't ever get coupons on that. Anyway, check out that site for the diaper suggestions - buy only the jumbo packs, use the $3 coupons and you can get a pack for $5.99 at Target, CVS or Rite-Aid. Woah, sorry about the diaper diatribe - didn't meant to do that!
I'm glad you liked your childbirthing classes :)
Sounds like you had a great 4th! I hope you are surviving this heat! I know its hot everywhere up and down the eastern shore right now!
ReplyDeleteglad the baby class went well! Its always good when an instructor is open minded like that. =) I hope the newborn care class goes well!
yes, diapers are expensive!! Part of the reason we are doing cloth! I know not everyone wants to do the cloth thing though... but you can really save like 1000 dollars over the course of the diapering years! But, you can get GREAT deals. I second the recommendation of baby cheapskate! They are an awesome baby discount blog! You can also download coupons online. My newest trick is Target... you can use a target coupon AND a manufacture's coupon for a product!